Forgiveness and fathers

How do we forgive our Fathers?
Maybe in a dream
Do we forgive our Fathers for leaving us too often or forever
when we were little?

Maybe for scaring us with unexpected rage
or making us nervous
because there never seemed to be any rage there at all.

Do we forgive our Fathers for marrying or not marrying our Mothers?
For Divorcing or not divorcing our Mothers?

And shall we forgive them for their excesses of warmth or coldness?
Shall we forgive them for pushing or leaning
for shutting doors
for speaking through walls
or never speaking
or never being silent?

Do we forgive our Fathers in our age or in theirs
or their deaths
saying it to them or not saying it?

If we forgive our Fathers what is left?

– D. Lourie


Food for thought on adoption and family

‘But Christians, at any rate, are called to recognize as kin, as their own flesh and blood, those with whom they do not share traceable genetic material. A history of relationship, commitment sustained over time, is what forms and sustains the bond of father and mother with their children.’

Gilbert C. Meilaender, Not by Nature but by Grace: Forming Families Through Adoption, p 11

The cycle of a Christian Life

“The Christian life is a continuous cycle of prayer, meditation on God’s Word, and temptation. Luther often said he knew he was a Christian because the devil taunted him. The devil wouldn’t waste his time with anyone far from the faith. The irony of the devil’s taunts is that it drives us back to the Word for refuge.”

Paraphrasing Dr John Kleinig


Oh you dear idiots

“Stop trying to complete yourself. Jesus has completed you.”

Tim Keller


Know your worth

“[I]f ever you are tempted to regard yourselves as worthless, you should value yourselves according to the price God put on you.”

Saint Augustine


Remember that smallness is beautiful too

“The holy person is a hidden person. It is true that God raises up some saints to be heroic, but beneath their heroic accomplishments lies a soul that is hidden in an ordinary life.”

Dwight Longenecker, ‘St Benedict and St Therese’.


There is another way than the path of fear

“[F]or God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”

2 Timothy 1:7